In an article published in The Guardian on 26 March 2014, Louis Degenhardt reports that after over 10 years of marriage, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin have agreed to separate.
Paltrow and Martin announced in a joint statement that they were “consciously uncoupling” on Paltrow’s “Goop” website. The site crashed due to volume of traffic shortly thereafter.
The “consciously uncoupled” ex couple emphasised:
“In many ways we are closer than we have ever been…. while we love each other very much we will remain separate.”
Degenhardt reports that Psychotherapist and author Katherine Woodward Thomas specialises in “the art of completion” and refers to it as “a proven process for lovingly completing a relationship that will leave you feeling whole and at peace.”
She goes on to say a breakup can be used as a “catalyst for making a breakthrough in the way you show up in your life… and in your next relationship.”
A 5 week course is offered by Woodward to “heal your heart, rediscover your joy and transform your life how to turn breakup grief into personal through.”
As Degenhardt rightly states: “It all sounds very free spirited, but it is harder to think of any couple more suited to this new age than Chris and Gwyneth.”
Whilst most non celebrity mere mortals may refer to the disintegration of their relationship as a “separation” not an “uncoupling”, the underlying desire to separate amicably is not uncommon.
While some may want to unleash fire and brimstone on their ex spouse, in my experience when I often meet clients for an initial conference, many people often express sentiments such as:
- “I don”t want to go to Court, I just want this to be done amicably.”
- “I don’t want to take them to the cleaners. I want us both to just get what’s fair.”
- “I want this to be smoother and I don’t want to end up on bad terms as we will have children together”.
In this regard, the vast majority of solicitors at Armstrong Legal, including the writer, are trained according to the standards of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (ICAP) the Law Society Guidelines to conduct Collaborative Law matters.
Also we often resolve matters amicably by way of mediation or settlement conference. It is possible to resolve many (though certainly not all) matters without resorting to Court proceedings.
If you are seeking advice in relation to divorce, separation, or are undergoing a “conscious uncoupling” from your spouse, please feel free to contact us at Armstrong Legal on (02) 9261 4555 for an initial obligation free appointment.